Here are some helpful things to know about having therapy (counselling):

  1. It’s important to find a counsellor that you feel comfortable speaking to – someone who you feel listens to you and understands you. Sometimes, this means you might you talk to a few people before finding the therapist you can work well with, and we can help you do that.
  1. Counselling involves talking about yourself and your experiences, when you’re ready. It’s about making a commitment to yourself. Sometimes the feelings can seem bigger when you begin this process, but your counsellor can help you through this so that you can move towards your goal of healing. 
  1. Counselling remains confidential between you and the counsellor or organisation unless you or others are thought to be at risk or there are legal requirements to disclose information (see our privacy policy).
  1. Engaging in counselling doesn’t mean that you’re required to report what has happened to the Police, tell others, or confront the offender. It’s here purely for your healing and peace of mind, no matter how you decide to handle the process of holding the person who hurt you accountable.
  1. Most counsellors will see you for weekly sessions of 50 – 60 minutes. ​

Talking to a stranger about something so personal can seem daunting, but remember, they are trained professionals. Many people like to read books or talk on the phone before they consider counselling. The Women’s Bookshop on Ponsonby Road, Auckland and online at has many helpful books and your local library will also have some.