What If I’m a Guy?

Sexual abuse can be a really difficult subject to talk about – for guys too. While females are more often the victims of sexual abuse, there are lots of guys that it happens to as well.  There could even be way more than people know about because guys might be less likely to speak up about it and report it to the Police.


There are a number of ideas out there in society which can make it difficult for guys to get support.  Ideas such as, “it’s sex, you’re meant to like it!”, “I must be gay if this happened”, “Women can’t abuse men”, “Guys are meant to be tough”, and “You should have been able to fight them off”.  These are really powerful ideas, and can be hard to deal with.  Apart from dealing with these, guys may also experience some similar kinds of effects of sexual assault as women do.


If you’re a guy who is a survivor of sexual abuse, you can get support.  You do not have to deal with this alone.  HELP’s Crisis Support Services are available if you wish to report the incident to the Police or receive medical care.  You can contact them confidentially, any time of the day or night, on 09 623 1700.  They will also be able to help you find a counsellor you can talk to if you want.